Today, saw a beautiful green baseball ground where
some
children were playing on the way back home.
Surprisingly never saw
it before though have taken the same road a hundred times.
Realized that I always had my back turned to that side and
today I was looking out of the window all around.
Wondering how many other beautiful things I have missed in my life till now....
I guess, must look out the window more often :)
Thursday, October 4, 2012
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Celebrity Men and Loyalty
Recently read an article regarding one of my favorite Actor, "Kajol". I used to love her performances and her way of making each character so special. What was even more nice about her that she left her career, when she was at the top (yes she was the best female actor at that time) to care for a family. Lots of heroines leave their career but usually only when it not being good to them or when their downfall starts. But Kajol left it all, just to be with the one she loves. That's when I started liking her even more.
So here's the sad part, I read her husband "Ajay Devgan" is having an affair with the married-men specialist "Kangana Ranuat". What special you might ask? Well nothing, if you look at the statistics.
In the film industry, its so common for the actors to fall in and fall out of love. The thing was just this that the above situation just shows a grim reality of how men cannot be faithful. Its not that I am generalising all the "men of the world"; but even if we conduct a worldwide survey we would find a majority of men(especially those in the entertainment industry) who do not have one sexual partner. Anyone who doesn't agree can go ahead and pick up the statistics for AIDS. Whay is it such a widespread disease? Yes , blood transfusion does cause it but all of us know the main cause.
So back to the topic; a man who has everything - a superstar wife who leaves all just to be with him; a son, a daughter and a wonderful career; goes ahead and sleeps around. Why? Men might say its not a big deal. But for all women; believe me, it is. Man sleeps around, he's a stud- woman does the same and she's a slut. Its the thought process that differs big time here. While a one night stand isn't a big deal for a man; it is a life changing statement for a woman.
I don't know when it will happen but the thought process of man and woman needs to get mapped at least on this issue. Loyalty can never be understated. It needs to be present in a relationship and has to be both on mental as well as physical level. Also once a partner cheats; there is no gaurantee he won't do it again. Every relationship has its own saturation point, and so its best for the woman to decide what means more to her, sticking around and giving him a chance or kicking him out and giving herself a chance.
So what did Kajol do when her husband did this "nothing- meant to him" episode. She fought hard for her marriage. Got a makeover; looks now like a million bucks and drove the other woman away.
Was she right? I hope for the sake of her kids, she was.
So here's the sad part, I read her husband "Ajay Devgan" is having an affair with the married-men specialist "Kangana Ranuat". What special you might ask? Well nothing, if you look at the statistics.
In the film industry, its so common for the actors to fall in and fall out of love. The thing was just this that the above situation just shows a grim reality of how men cannot be faithful. Its not that I am generalising all the "men of the world"; but even if we conduct a worldwide survey we would find a majority of men(especially those in the entertainment industry) who do not have one sexual partner. Anyone who doesn't agree can go ahead and pick up the statistics for AIDS. Whay is it such a widespread disease? Yes , blood transfusion does cause it but all of us know the main cause.
So back to the topic; a man who has everything - a superstar wife who leaves all just to be with him; a son, a daughter and a wonderful career; goes ahead and sleeps around. Why? Men might say its not a big deal. But for all women; believe me, it is. Man sleeps around, he's a stud- woman does the same and she's a slut. Its the thought process that differs big time here. While a one night stand isn't a big deal for a man; it is a life changing statement for a woman.
I don't know when it will happen but the thought process of man and woman needs to get mapped at least on this issue. Loyalty can never be understated. It needs to be present in a relationship and has to be both on mental as well as physical level. Also once a partner cheats; there is no gaurantee he won't do it again. Every relationship has its own saturation point, and so its best for the woman to decide what means more to her, sticking around and giving him a chance or kicking him out and giving herself a chance.
So what did Kajol do when her husband did this "nothing- meant to him" episode. She fought hard for her marriage. Got a makeover; looks now like a million bucks and drove the other woman away.
Was she right? I hope for the sake of her kids, she was.
Monday, July 2, 2012
For My Sumi Junior
There I was living a life of my own
grown up and apart from my old home
yet her existence brought memories back
how i had waited to hold my sister in my arms
She was beautiful; she had such lovely hands
her eyes had lashes that would never end
Growing together we fought, we loved
Sometimes only we could understand the other
To hold her again, to love her more
I feel, life gave me another chance
and to make sure I'm always there
whenever in her life she wants
Samien Meraj, have so many emotions
no words to thank you dears
for giving me such a lovely aspect
of my childhood after so many years.
Saturday, January 14, 2012
Little Things
Life actually involves a series of little events that make it interesting.
The past few days with Izhaan sometimes make me realize how beautiful
it is to have a child.
Watching your child's intelligence and growth develop is miraculous.
Like the day when we wee walking to the bus stop for going to the library, the bus passed from the other side and Izhaan started tugging my hand; he wanted me to rush and catch the bus. What was amazing that we hardly travel by bus, but he remembered from
the last time and not only that on seeing it he recognized it.
Such a sweet event!
In the Library, he just wanted to work on the desktops there.He didn't pick up a single children book but picked up a lot of novels and brought them to me. All through the trip, I avoided the stroller and he too liked walking.
Though he never ceases to amaze me with his antic, there was a special surprise for me today. Usually when I close the bathroom door to finally bathe him, I have to tell him to pick up his toys from the tub and put them on the tub side. But today when I came inside the bathroom and closed the door, he himself started picking up the toys and putting them in their place.
When he first placed the duck on the tub side and then a soap dish on top, the soap dish fell down. Hence he picked up both the soap dish in one hand and took duck in the other; then he first put the soap dish on the side of the tub,and on top of it he put the duck. Realizing he had put them in a way that nothing fell, he even clapped for himself. I found it so sweet.
God....thank you so much!
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Sane or Insane
These are good times in my life.
Having a ball with my husband and son.
But coincidently, two of my friends are having very bad time in their life.
One of them related an incident wich happened to her and that
actually led me to rewind my memory and think about something
which happened 3-4 years ago.
I had joined Infosys as a fresher and I got allocated to a new city.
I made many friends there.
One girl who became a very close friend of mine, confided in me one day.
She told me she was a divorcee and now that I was such a dear friend to
her she wanted to share her story with me.
She then proceeded to tell me how she was tricked into marrying
an insane person. A sadist who threatened her, tortured her
and most importantly, had once left her at midnight alone
on the street, far away from home.
Though she told me lots of other things, the one about leaving her
at the streets at midnight haunted me for a very long time.
It was such a scary thought.
Flash forward to the present.
A very good friend got married few years ago.
The guy is handsome, decent and from a well to do family
and working in a very nice company.
Every marriage has its share of fights and they had theirs too.
But in a recent one, he just dragged her to the car, drove
almost out of town and in a forest area. Then he took all
her credit cards, money, mobile, forcefully away and
left her alone in the middle of the woods.
The good thing was that instead of meeting a serial killer or
rapist, my friend was able to make a call to a relative
from a good samaratin's house.
The bad thing is she will still spend the rest of her
life with a person who actually acted horribly insane.
In the first case I was sure about the guy's sanity
as it was later medically proven as well.
But what should be the excuse for the man in the second case?
What should he be considered?
Sane ... or Insane?
The thought just comes to mind...
Was the insane pretending to be sane, or is the sane actually insane?
Having a ball with my husband and son.
But coincidently, two of my friends are having very bad time in their life.
One of them related an incident wich happened to her and that
actually led me to rewind my memory and think about something
which happened 3-4 years ago.
I had joined Infosys as a fresher and I got allocated to a new city.
I made many friends there.
One girl who became a very close friend of mine, confided in me one day.
She told me she was a divorcee and now that I was such a dear friend to
her she wanted to share her story with me.
She then proceeded to tell me how she was tricked into marrying
an insane person. A sadist who threatened her, tortured her
and most importantly, had once left her at midnight alone
on the street, far away from home.
Though she told me lots of other things, the one about leaving her
at the streets at midnight haunted me for a very long time.
It was such a scary thought.
Flash forward to the present.
A very good friend got married few years ago.
The guy is handsome, decent and from a well to do family
and working in a very nice company.
Every marriage has its share of fights and they had theirs too.
But in a recent one, he just dragged her to the car, drove
almost out of town and in a forest area. Then he took all
her credit cards, money, mobile, forcefully away and
left her alone in the middle of the woods.
The good thing was that instead of meeting a serial killer or
rapist, my friend was able to make a call to a relative
from a good samaratin's house.
The bad thing is she will still spend the rest of her
life with a person who actually acted horribly insane.
In the first case I was sure about the guy's sanity
as it was later medically proven as well.
But what should be the excuse for the man in the second case?
What should he be considered?
Sane ... or Insane?
The thought just comes to mind...
Was the insane pretending to be sane, or is the sane actually insane?
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